What is it with the Muslim men and sex?

Sex is clearly not a big issue in Islam but it seems that it is such a big issue, or the only issue there is, for the Muslim men. It seems that the lives of Muslim men are revolved around ‘man-woman’ relationship. We don’t have to go far to prove my point – just look at Kelantan, the so-called Islamic state or just look at most Malay men around us.

A simple honest handshake between a man and a woman is feared to have urged sexual desire or triggered ‘inappropriate’ visuals in the minds of the Malays. I was made to understand that the Islamic point of view in prohibiting ‘touching’ between different genders is said to be based on respect. If so, why all these talks about ‘inappropriate’ visuals and sexual desire? Didn’t it only mean that there is no respect whatsoever towards the women?

In the Saudi, women driving cars could also be mistaken as a slut. In many other Muslim countries, women not wearing hijab could also be mistaken as an invitation for rape.

And do you realize how Muslim men only have one ambition in life, that is to have two wives, or more? Of course, there is absolutely no love involved here, it is all about sex, sex and sex.

I’ve heard how some Malaysian Muslims got married just because they accidentally looked into each others’ eyes and that would mean that they have committed ‘zina’ and therefore must get married. I mean, these people must have ‘sex’ written all over their heads that they cannot do anything without relating it to sex. (Heck, I just looked at my assistant in the eye and was only thinking of whether she has finished the task that I asked her to do).

Whenever we hear the Muslims argue about Islam, it is always about how much flesh a woman can reveal, what could lead to ‘zina’, what could arouse the men and the sorts.

The Muslims even referred to their women as perfectly wrapped ‘candies’ and their women are to take the analogy it as an honour. My woman would snap if I ever referred to her as ‘food’ and she has the right to because she’s not made by God to be eaten by men.

Referring to women as candies shows how zero respect the Muslim men have towards their women. I’m sure many would argue on this but I have the rights to my opinions just as they have the rights to theirs. I believe that referring to women as food is totally against the Quran. It is an insult to the God’s given brains to the women.

The Quran says that women are to be respected, protected and loved, NOT eaten, whether literally or metaphorically.

Women have the rights to choose, to think, to have opinions and therefore attitude and characters. In other words, women have the rights to live and express herself through her choice of clothes and words and actions. Of course, all these are subjected to some rules and limitation of sane, civilized beings.

If the women have disregarded these rules and gone beyond the limits, the men have to treat them with respect nevertheless and protect them just the same, like sane, civilized beings.

We must treat everybody with respect regardless of their appearance, and this, I believe a the teachings from the Quran. If you teach the people otherwise, the world would be in haywire, like the Muslim countries.

I’ll give you an example, if you tell a boy that women in skirts are bad women and deserve no respect, I’ll bet that the boy would start looking at women’s legs as sex object.

And then you go on telling the boy that women in skirts are actually inviting boys to look at them. You know what would happen then? Yes, the boy then starts imagining the word ‘inviting’.

Without ‘respect’ and with the mind trying to figure out the ‘invitation’, the boy finally thinks that sexual attack against a woman is not really wrong, should the woman fits the category of ‘bad woman’. He felt no guilt before and absolutely no guilt after. The only feeling he has, perhaps, is afraid of the Law, but never of God because ‘God would understand that it wasn’t his fault at all’.

This is how rape become a ‘norm’ in a community, a no big deal, a nobody’s business but the victim’s.

And this is why the rape of a teenage girl by 38 men that shocked the nation last week did not exactly shocked the Kelantanese.

But I also heard that girls and women in Kelantan are all covered up. So, if they are all covered up, why are they the target of rape still? What happened to the perfectly wrapped candies? The men just tear up the wrapper and push it down the throat anyway… So much of ‘respect’ eh?

Unfortunately, this is how Islam is taught in Malaysia and probably, around the world. The hollier the Muslim is, the more sexual he becomes. The more ‘Islamic’ a country or a state is, the more sex-related crime there is.

Why can’t the Muslims just admit it that it is not what the women wear, but the upbringing of the men that led to sexual crimes against women.

The Muslim men must stop thinking of sex day in and day out and find better things to think of. Stop reading about what not to do to a woman and start reading about what to do in life instead - that is to seek knowledge from the universe, which I believe, is the teachings of the Quran.

The more empty space you have in your head, the more space you have for evil to breed. Your brain is the most powerful, most sophisticated creation – use it to the limit, don’t let it stay idle, which I believe is the teachings of the Quran too.

Some wise people said that sex is about temporary brain malfunction. Too much of it might mean brain damage. Maybe this is why all Muslim countries are a gone case - the Muslim men have brain damage. They think about sex all the time. They see sex in women driving cars. They see sex in women’s hair and women’s legs and eyes. They see sex in a simple, respectable handshake or in washing hair in salons.

They long to marry one, two, three and four women at a time. Oh yes, I’ve met a Muslim men with kids everywhere that he barely know them and I thought, “yikes! even my cat can keep track of its children”.

From the way the Muslim men behave, I could have mistaken that the Quran is all about sex.

Fortunately, I took the trouble to read it and I’m telling you that the Quran is not about sex but is about science! How could the Muslims missed that?

Reminder to All Christian-Chinese

I'm sharing with you here a letter from a Chinese woman, who once lived in Indonesia in the late 1990s. She had witnessed the killing and raping of the Chinese ethnic by the Indonesians, who have had enough of the economic imbalance in the country.

The letter is published by a blog called ChristianUnited4Malaysia I have mentioned this blog before, in my previous writings.

The message is clear, that is, to not provoke the Muslims too far but what is funny is that, the blog itself is doing just that. It even use the name 'Allah' just to pick on the Muslims. Looks like the hypocrisy of the Evangelists has reached the highest possible level.

Anyway, this is a good reminder to all Christian-Chinese in Malaysia, and to the blog owner himself. For a full story and pictures, you may want to click here.

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Puan-puan dan tuan-tuan sekalian,

Apakah yang kita mahukan dalam kehidupan? Pada pandangan saya, kita semua hanya perlukan satu perkara sahaja. Kebahagiaan!

Di dunia dan dialam akan datang nanti kita semua ingin kan kebahagiaan.

Tetapi mampukah kita untuk mengecapi kehidupan sebagai seorang beriman yang patuh kepada tuhannya apabila kita terus menerus menentang sebuah kerajaan yang telah banyak memberikan kebaikkan kepada kita?

Saya rasakan ada kalanya tidak adil kita salahkan semuanya kepada kerajaan Barisan Nasional sahaja. Banyak bantuan dan kebaikkan yang telah diberikan oleh BN kepada kita. Walaupun mereka telah melakukan banyak juga kesalahan, tetapi dimanakah kita dapat kerajaan yang lebih baik? Ternyata tiada kan?

Saya pernah tinggal di Indonesia semasa tragedi Ambon sehinggalah pada tahun 1998 dimana tragedi rusuhan di Indonesia berlangsung dengan ganasnya. Sebilangan wanita kebanyakkan dari keturunan Cina dirogol dan dibunuh dengan kejam. Tanpa peri kemanusiaan. Polis dan Tentera tidak berbuat apa-apa pun, mereka hanya melihat dan ada yang ikut sekali. Bersyukurlah Malaysia ini diperintah oleh orang Melayu yang lembut tutur bicaranya, hatinya dan sifatnya.

Selama ini kita yang mengasingkan diri, sekarang pula bermacam perkara yang kita minta dari mereka. Tidak cukupkah apa yang kita sudah dapat. Kemewahan kita sudah melebihi dari segalanya. Tapi kita tekan lagi orang Melayu untuk membenci kita. Bahasa Malaysia pun tidak kita pelajari. Kita seolah-olah ingin berperang dengan orang Melayu. Atas dasar apa? Keegoan kita?

Saya orang tua, umur saya sudah cecah 56 tahun pada June 2014 ini. Saya amat kenal dengan bangsa Melayu. Mereka adalah sahabat, rakan dan menantu saya juga seorang perempuan Melayu. Berbuat baiklah dengan orang Melayu, karena jika kita bermusuhan dengan mereka, dan mereka sedar yang mereka telah ditipu, saya cadangkan orang yang telah provokasi orang Melayu itu siap-siapkan sajalah keranda. Orang Melayu adalah kawan yang baik, mereka susah untuk marah. Tapi kalau dah marah, hanya Tuhan sahaja yang dapat menahan mereka.

Saya pernah melihat amukan orang Melayu di depan mata saya semasa di Indonesia. Terus terang saya katakan, saya tidak mahu lihat lagi perkara tersebut. Hargailah orang Melayu kerana mereka telah menjadi jiran yang baik kepada kita disini.

Bersyukurlah kepada Yesus, bahawa kita berkerajaan yang baik dan sentiasa memastikan keselamatan terjaga. Janganlah kita terus bermusuhan dengan orang Muslim. Jangan ikutkan hati dan perasaan kita.

Setiap perkara yang kita katakan kepada dunia kita haruslah bertanya kepada diri kita sendiri "Apa yang Yesus akan lakukan?". Yesus akan berlaku adil dan kita perlu berlaku adil bagi mengikut perintahnya.


Maria Anthony Chin (56 years old)
Subang Jaya, Selangor Darul Ehsan.